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GAY MARRIAGE 

12/12/2012

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So there has been a lot and I mean a lot of  discussion on gay marriage. When it comes to matters of regulation and
legislation I use a very simple policy. Does it pass the “smell test”? 

Part 1 Does the action in question have a negative impact on a third  party?

No. Two people you or I have  never met, living some place we will probably never visit, getting married
doesn’t impact our lives. We are not effected physically, financially or  emotionally. Its not like they are walking down the street shooting people.  Basic, I know but you get the point.

Part 2 Does the action have a negative impact on the individuals  involved?

Hell! It’s marriage what  do you think? It, however, is not like trying to commit suicide. 

Suicide is  faster…

You see my gentle reader  It’s not the idea of gay marriage I question. It’s the concept of marriage  period, gay or otherwise. I know, you think I’m being cynical but follow along.  I have 800 words to do this in so watch your heads and keep you hands and feet  inside the ride at all times.

Argument 1. Providing the children a stable  environment?

When has a marriage  guaranteed a healthy environment to raise kids? We all know someone that had  married parents and it was a horrible place to grow up. We have known parents  that stayed married for the sake of the children but created such a poisonous  environment they would’ve been better off getting divorced instead of raising
kids in an atmosphere of tension and hate. What creates a stable environment is  two adults that love each other and no piece of paper is going to manufacture  that, ever.

Argument 2. Health  insurance?

If your marriage is  based on the idea one party or the other is going to benefit from a health plan  then you better ask why that other person is marrying you. Is it you or your low  “co-pay”.

Not to be rude but a  marriage should be between equals. Don’t get me wrong if you want to provide  that to someone swell, but again if you married someone so you could provide  them care so they can stay home and cook and clean for you, did you marry a  partner for life our just acquire a live in maid or butler with sexual  benefits?

Argument 3 You should get  married so that you have a retirement plan.

You can set up trust funds. You can name beneficiaries on life  insurance policies etc. Sure someone could dispute it but that happens every day  now any way. Gay, straight, married, living together if someone wants to cry  “foul” they can. It’s their legal right. Welcome to the real world it happens  all the time.

I have noticed that a  key to avoiding a lot of this hooey is either not be worth anything or give all  your crap away before you croak. Won’t solve all the instances true but it will  reduce them.

Argument 4. What about  making health care decisions for your loved one if they are  unable?

Living wills, powers of  attorney, a lot of this stuff can be dealt with some simple planning. Even  married people have had their choices contested. Any body rember Terri Schiavo??  So to say a marriage gives you  some sort of immunity to people meddling in your affairs is “bunk”. The courts  are littered with law suits by third parties interfering in what are  traditionally called “family matters”.

Argument  5 It’s immoral to have gays marry or to have people live in  sin.

Worst argument of them all.  Social morality is a fickle thing. Its changes about as often as women’s  fashions.

Some biggies:

Slavery  was considered morally acceptable.

Some people would argue that interracial relationships are abhorrent in  the face of God even today.

Thousands if not millions of people found it morally acceptable to  roast 6 million fellow human beings in ovens like turkeys on Thanks Giving not  so long ago.

Morality is not now,  nor has it ever been an absolute in human history. It not only changes with time  but varies from culture to culture. Morality, at best, is defined by the  individual and that’s a weak hook to hang your hat on.

The core of all these arguments basically comes down to  two people looking for approval from a third party to justify, approve of,  accept or somehow bestow some benefit on their “union”. Call me a “romantic” but  relationships that will last till one or both of you dies doesn’t need the  approval of others. It is in fact, your relationship. The only thing that
matters is that you two deeply care about each other.

Waaaayyyyy over simplified but in at 800 words. Damn what a ride!
;-)

Mader

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